Crazy for Christmas

December 8, 2007

While its normally against my no lame-old-people -TV policy, I might have to check out HGTV tomorrow night.  Sunday, Dec. 9, @ 9 they are airing a special “What’s With That Decked Out Christmas House?”  I love insanely decked out houses.  I think its great if someone want to be that excited about the holidays.  Plus as a kid, those lights meant Christmas was soon, so it attaches an emotional significance.

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“What’s With That Decked Out Christmas House?”
It’s a holiday twist on the series, What’s With That House? Every neighborhood has one … the house that just doesn’t fit in. And for the holidays, these houses actually go out of their way to stand out! What’s With That Decked Out Christmas House? has host George Gray taking viewers behind the closed doors of the most-talked-about houses in the neighborhood to meet the characters who live there and check out their unique take on holiday decorating.


National Coming Out Day

October 12, 2007

NOTE: If someone could tell me how to make a cut post, so I could put some of the text behind a cut it would be appreciated. This post is super long, but I am not tech savy enough and I am too tired to look it up.

So it is national coming out day, or technically yesterday was, but I haven’t gone to bed yet. I figured I would hook up some links and videos, and share my story. Since this is officially the first year that I would consider myself fully ‘out’. First, this is an adorable post from QueerSighted it is titled “I’m Out and it’s My Mother’s Fault” (Cute Story)

Second the HRC has an informative video that kind of runs through the history of National Coming Out Day and some of their work. The video is on youtube and viewers were encouraged to send in video responses. Check It OUT. I thought many of the responses were incredibly touching and inspiring. It is reassuring to know that more and more resources are out there for teenagers. I remember going with Alex and Christina all the way to Doylestown for some sort of gay youth meeting thing and thinking how reassuring it was to see other teenagers in the same spot. This was the response video that most struck me:

Finally, here is my “coming out” story, as cliché as that is. I hear a lot of coming out stories and have read books and seen movies, but for me it was different. I have known for a long time I was gay, I have been in a long term relationship, and have carried out my life in a very open manner. Everyone assumes I am “out” because I am loud and open in most situations, but there was one place where I wasn’t out until recently, my house. Some of you know the story, but I figured I would share it anyway (warning it is long and rambling as it is almost 2 am)…read the story behind the cut

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Child Rapist on the Run

October 2, 2007

For those of you not following the case, here is the background:


LAS VEGAS, Nevada (CNN) — An intense manhunt was under way Monday for Chester Stiles, a 37-year old man whom police say is a suspect in the videotaped rape of a 3-year-old girl four years ago. Chester Arthur Stiles, 37, of Nevada is being sought as a suspect in the videotaped rape of a 3-year-old girl. Also Monday, Stiles’ former girlfriend told CNN she believes she put him in contact with the girl. Tina Allen took Stiles to a crowded apartment where her son and daughter lived. Also living in the apartment were a family friend and her 3-year-old daughter, who allegedly was victimized by Stiles. “I’m disgusted. I’m ashamed, embarrassed, mortified,” Allen said. “I regret every, every step I ever took; I feel bad for the baby.”

Allen ended her relationship with Stiles a few months ago. She said she believes it will be difficult for police to find him. “He will hide out in mountains if that’s what it takes, he will hide out in a crowd, he’ll find somebody who hasn’t heard anything and stay there,” she said. “He has skills. He knows how to hunt, I mean hunt with a gun, a knife, a bow.” Allen said Stiles stopped by her house last week for a friendly visit before his name was linked to the videotape. She said his appearance had changed. She said his hair was longer and he had put on weight. Stiles, a resident of Pahrump, Nevada, is a former animal trainer, authorities said. De Meo said the FBI also is seeking him in a separate matter involving state charges of sexual assault and lewdness with a minor under 14.

The man who claimed to have found the tape in the desert and held it for at least five months before handing it over to authorities turned himself in Sunday to Nye County officials. Darren Tuck, a Nevada resident who allegedly showed the tape to others before giving it to police, faces a possible sentence of 10 years to life for exhibiting pornography and another one to six years for possession of child pornography, according to De Meo. Tuck’s attorney, Harry Kuehn, said last week on CNN’s “Nancy Grace” that his client had been “wracked by indecision” as to what to do with the tape once he realized what it was.

My opinion is there must be more to the story. There are so many questions that need to be answered.

1. When did the parents leave the 3 year old with a man they claim to have not known or barely known?

2. How did the man who had the tape really get it?

3. Did he really never display any inappropriate behavior with the former girlfriend’s kids?

4. Why did the man who “found the tape in the desert” wait 5 months, and why did he show another person such a disturbing video?

5. How did the girl not exhibit any signs of trauma after the incident?

It is times like these that I believe in the death penalty.  While I do believe if you execute one innocent person it is not worth having, people like him deserve to die.  There is no maybe he did it or didn’t do it, there is a video.  That is a step above a confession.  Well when they find him, and they will, he won’t last long.  Whether a cop shoots him as he runs or someone with at least jail house morals kills him the first night, I will not feel a bit sorry for him or his family.  Men like that deserve the death penalty over life in prison.  They should never have another moment to reflect fondly on, think about, fantasize about, or remember the awful things they have done.